We want the good without evil. We want the sweet but not the sour. We want the light and reject darkness. We just want only those things that in our subjectivity we have classified as “good”. But we must understand, however, that both sides are two sides of the same coin.
Alan Watts said in one of his speeches, “Life implies death.” And meditating on this, I concluded that, as obvious as it sounds, we could never die if we were never born. Death implies life and life implies death. Good implies the existence of evil. Heat involves cold. And all opposites must exist to be understood as a part of the whole they are.
Each part is required for the presence of the other. They could not exist without its opposite. It’s illogical. They need each other to exist, to be understood. Therefore, if we only accept one side and reject the other, we aren’t accepting any. Because we can’t conceive the concept of “light” if there were no “darkness”. This is the Yingyang, which can only be seen when both sides accepted.
This principle applies to everything, including you. Your male side and female side, your skills and flaws. Thus, to accept things as they are, the acceptance of all parts is necessary. So instead of rejecting one of the two parts because we think they are “not good”, we must accept the duality to which they belong. Only in this way, we will accept the object or subject.